Mine and Paul's Conversation

At work only the other day i was talking to a friend, who is also a manager and we got talking about business etc
He went on to share with me a book he was reading ....

Some tips he shared with me, apparently if you want or would like someone to do something and have a good feeling that they will say no. By asking them a question before and getting a yes answer THEN asking them what you think they will say no to statistically they will agree too.

For example,

'Did you have a good break?'

'yes thanks'

'Good!.... can you do me a favour and ?????'

i thought this can come off very fake and easy to pick up on BUT i thought it was quite interesting.
He then shared a story about how someone did a study about stopping people in the street and asking for money for a chairty or organisation or something i don't quite remember. Though the key point was before asking them they used hand gestures without touching the person to usher them to one side and then ask ...

For example,

walking down the street and the person approaches the stranger and goes...

'Excuse me sir, and places his hand and body in a direction to the side of the pavement'
(Now as the stranger is walking down the road, they more than likely WON'T turn 180 and walk back, which leaves 3 options left, right and straight forward, now with the person positioning his body and hand gesture, leaves the stranger with one place to go.)

This on the face of it can seem very intimidating BUT again i thought it was clever little things like that can influence people. And if done correctly can seem so innocent BUT highly influential.

Now after reading a book by Dale Carneige 'How to influence people' i had already woken the interest in this subject. But i thought i would love to learn MORE about this, as taking body language skills into business or leadership and relationships can be very good tool and skills to have or to know about.

I also thought these skills or information and knowledge if aquired could easily lead to increase confidence too. As the saying goes.... 'ACTION SPEAKS LOUDER THAN WORDS'.

So i will try and get reviewing all the books i've read so far asap. But also find time and FOLLOW THIS UP.

Body Language Skills in Business and Leadership! - Looking forward to studying and researching this!