- When people can afford the necessities in life, an increase in income does not result in a significantly happier life. Part of the reason is that we all get used to what we have very quickly. Buying a new car or bigger house provides a short term feel-good boost, but we quickly become accustomed to it and sink back to our pre-purchase level of joy.
- If you walk into a room that smells of freshly baked bread, you quickly detect the rather pleasant aroma.However, stay in the room for a bit and the smell appears to vanish. The only way to get it back is to leave and re enter the room. The same concept applies to many areas of our lives. We quickly adapt and 'don't realise what we've got till it's gone.'
- In job interviews likability is rated higher than qualifications or work experience, (introduce your negative/weak points FIRST - this comes across as you are OPEN/ HONEST/ TRUSTWORTHY whereas if you leave it till the end it comes across as the opposite, the same goes for strengths, reveal them at or near the start you come across as BOASTFUL/ ARROGANT/ BIG HEADED leave them till the very end and you come across as MODEST.
- Buy experiences than goods (trips away over TV's as this lasts longer in our memories making us happier for longer)
- Giving money away trumps buying experiences
- If you make a mistake, (something you say, wear or do.. apologise if need be but don't draw attention to it as statistically it won't of been as noticeable to you for others, so continue as nothing had happened.
- If you set children an activity they enjoy and reward them for doing it, the reward reduces the enjoyment and demotivates them. Within a few seconds, you transform play into work.
- Researchers believe that when looking at a group, people use a basic rule of thumb - important people sit in the middle - and label the phenomenon the centre-stage effect.
- The Franklin Effect. - People like you more when they carry out a favour for you. However, the effect has it;s limitations and is more likely to work with small favours.
- The Pratfall Effect. - The occasional slip-up can enhance your liveability.
- Gossip. - Know what traits you assign to others will likely be seen as part of your own personality.
- Yes, Yes, Yes - Dale Carnegie 'The message is people are much more likely to agree with you when they have said something positive.
- Save your time, Persuade by Rhyme
- The Bystander Effect - The more people who are around when a person is apparently in need of assistance, the lower the likelihood of anyone actually helping. (instead pick a friendly face and directly tell them what is happening and what they must do - this short-circuits them and turns them from a faceless person in the crowd to someone who can/will help)
- The message from research is clear - fantasising about your perfect world may make you feel better but it is unlikely to help transform your dreams into reality. (Create a plan with steps along the way)
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- HOW TO BEAT PROCRASTINATION - Procrastinators frequently put off starting certain activities because they are overwhelmed by the size of the job in front of them. However, if they can be persuaded to spend 'at least 2-3 minutes' they often feel the urge to see it through to completion. 'At least 2-3 minutes rule is a highly effective way of beating procrastination.
- 'Social Loafing' - Working in groups / brain storming results in fewer creative ideas compared to working alone.
- 'Two Men In A Room Theory' - The quiet guy represents your unconscious mind. It is capab;e of wonderful ideas, but often difficult to hear. The loud guy represents your conscious mind - clever, not as innovative, but difficult ti get out if your head. (Everyone can be more creative, it is just a case of keeping the loud guy in your head busy, and giving the quiet guy a chance to speak up.)
- To inspire creative thoughts, place plants and flowers in a room.
- A simple brief LIGHT TOUCH on the top of a persons arm can have a powerful effect. If you want them to help you, or simply asking someone to dance.
- Surrounding yourself with objects that remind you of your partner is good for your relationship.
- We are not rational creatures we like to think we are and can easily be perusaded by a variety of quick and effective techniques. 'That's not all' - 4 cookies for 75p or (1 cookie and 3 FREE FOR 75p)
- Liars often reduce the number of times that they say words like 'I', 'me' and 'mine' and tend to use 'his' and 'her' rather than people's names.
Liars can look normal contrary to popular belief however they will THINK more, so instead of looking out for signs of nervousness look out for signs of someone over thinking a simple question.
- With children PRAISE EFFORT and not ability. As effort is something a child can always improve, whereas ABILITY isn't. Praising ability can hinder a child's motivation and lead to fear of challenge's incase they don't do as well. Whereas research shows children praised for effort often pick challenging tasks over kids praised for ability.
- The smaller the threat you make to a child not to do or go somewhere the bigger the impact. Whereas making a big threat on a child not to do something can encourage the child (this might must be good if they really don't want me to see or do.....)
- The longer your ring finger is compared to your index finger the greater chance of success in later life researchers believe.
- Deal with potential liars by closing your eyes and asking for an email. Statistically lies are LESS told in emails over, texts, face to face and phone calls because it is easily documented and can come back to be used against them.
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